Everyone has their own means of staying focused and motivated. Here’s a list of what keeps me going daily and when the going gets tough at times:
1. What’s Your WHY?
Your reason often starts off as a private matter. Whether it’s losing those flabs, buying a new car and house, or start your own philanthropic act. Whatever it is you want to do, you might as well GO BIG with it. And just as important, you want to stay true to your goals. For example, if you sincerely want to be a millionaire, don’t say you want to help build homes for homeless people. There is nothing wrong or sinful in pursuing materialistic wealth.
For me, my goals change from time to time, especially after I have accomplished them. Levelling up and finding new WHY’s is important to me.
2. Celebrate small wins.
It is important to nurture your self confidence before reaching your ultimate destination. Like rest houses along the journey, I celebrate and acknowledge my little victories – just like I celebrate my affiliate promotion earnings before I get to the big product launch.
At the same time, I don’t over-congratulate myself, for this leads on a dangerous path to complacency.
3. Look up to people who are already doing what you want to do.
I have multiple mentors and people that I look up to in different areas of life. In Internet Marketing, I have several successful business associates, partners, and top guns I study especially if they are already doing what I strive to achieve. I take fitness advice from my gym trainer. And when it comes to dating and relationships, I listen to yet other figures who I can align with.
Make no mistake: there is an abundance of experts and leaders to look up to. I feel it’s wiser to single out just a few based on where you want to go, and what you want to achieve.
4. Do 2 to 3 main things a day.
And that’s it. If you want to stay focused, choose 2 to 3 important things to get done in the day, and nothing more. Don’t multi-task and don’t add needless items to your to-do list to fool yourself into thinking you’re productive. Remember, working effective is better than working efficient. A manager do things right; leaders do the right thing.
5. Talk to friends that empower you, not pull you down.
I am happy to say that I’m in the company of uplifting friends and family members. However it wasn’t always that way; when I started out years ago I had to spend more than half of my energy against the nay-sayers. If you find yourself being pulled down by ‘frenemies’ this is an indication you need to hang out with a different breed of people. Talk to winners, find your way into their club. It may be exclusive but it’s worth fighting for, this is an infinite times better than a free admission to the mediocre club.
6. Keep a track record on your progress and put it in writing.
What you can measure, you can manage. When I started streamlining my income/expense sheet last year, I wasn’t happy with the numbers. It was something I dreaded to see for a long time because I was afraid to confront the truth. When I finally did, I realize I was not making as much profit (not revenue, PROFIT is the last word) as I had always thought.
The truth was ugly however I needed to face. Fast forward almost a year later, and my monthly profit has nearly DOUBLED in recent months compared to the yesteryear. It’s important to see how far you’ve come, and when you’re keeping track of your progress, you’ll be determined to change those numbers. The same holds true for other achievements, including your body weight and strength training.
7. Do it for more than just yourself.
I may not be a father and thus have no kids (maybe in the future, marriage is not on my mind right now) but I have a mother and sister to take care of. More than a decade ago when I quit my full-time job and after a rocky start I finally made some money online, I promised my mother she never has to work again for the rest of her life. So it’s been up to me since to uphold that promise and commitment. This also keeps my attitude in check from recklessly splashing all my new found wealth.
It’s easier said than done, but making a declaration has to come truly from the heart and not pay lip service.
8. Share your wins!
Some might think this is horn tooting but I think it’s a good positive thing, provided you do it with genuine intention to inspire others as well vs. feeding your own ego. You probably have people looking up to you in turn (or if that hasn’t happened yet, you will one day) so if anything, you won’t want to disappoint the people looking up to you as a role model to them.
It won’t be a bed of roses and chances are, you will still attract some jealous people and haters – I’d say let them be for this speaks more about them than it does about you. Share your wins, inspire others, and this also helps reinforce your motivation and self confidence for the right reasons.
Don’t horde it all to yourself – imagine if all the experts, top names, leaders, etc. kept all the knowledge you learned from them TODAY to themselves.
9. Pay no attention to politics.
If you look at most of the successful entrepreneurs especially on social media, they seldom (if at all) comment or talk excessively about politics. In retrospect, I notice the people who spend most of their time commenting on news sites and sharing bad news go viral are usually bitter, unhappy people. So it’s safe to say, politics attract this lot and this is a huge focus killer, not to mention highly demotivating.
So stay out of politics and stop dwelling in things you have no control over. The sooner you realize there ARE things you can do to improve your personal economy, the sooner you will be empowered instead of surrendering your energy and spiritual submission to the people you’re most unhappy with (and they might not even know it – which makes it worse!)
10. Just as important, don’t indulge in vices like gambling and excessive drinking.
This is a guilty pleasure for most men, but these are usually escapes from reality for many.
I don’t drink. I don’t smoke. And I don’t gamble. Because generally, I find many ways to keep myself happy, focused and motivated that I spare no room for these self-damaging vices.
To sum it up, find what works for you, what keeps you focused and what keeps you motivated even when the tide is against you.